Dr. Bill DeFoore welcomes you:

New Book Release! SERAI: Bringing the Children Home

Read these uplifting and informing perspectives to enhance your Emotional Wellness :    Good People Doing Good    Your Own Magnificence    The Intelligence of Love    Your Life Story    The Best Health Care    Your Unique Self

Check out these highly informative and innovative audio programs now:    Goodfinding    Financial and Emotional Wealth    Nurturing Your Inner Child    Meditation Emotion & Healing    Affirmations for Well Being    Healthy Anger and Your Health    Sacred Roles in Marriage    Sacred Sexuality    Expectations in Marriage    Anger Management Techniques    Healing Anger and Depression

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Good People Doing Good
Today, millions of people all over the world showed small acts of love and kindness and went out of their way to help others, with no recognition or praise. Many thousands committed acts of heroism which went unacknowledged. Someone spent time with an ailing or elderly person in need. A father set aside his demanding agenda to go fishing or play catch with his son. A mother labored tirelessly to care for her family, knowing her efforts would be unacknowledged. A little boy spent hours making a special get well card for his older sister who won't let him hang around with her and her friends. A child found a wounded bird and took it home to a father willing to stop what he was doing to mend its broken wing.

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Your Own Magnificence
Marianne Williamson has said that our greatest fear is facing our own magnificence, our inner light and beauty. When you catch but one small glimpse of this pure, radiant being that is your true original self, you will be engulfed in unconditional love. This is what we want, and what we fear the most. We want it because it shows us who we really are. We fear it because its essence of love washes away the familiar illusions of who we thought we were. The freedom and responsibility of knowing your magnificence is daunting, exhilarating, uplifting and energizing. Become the spiritual warrior you were born to be and discover the Holy Grail shining in the depths of your very soul.

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The Intelligence of Love
Love and compassion make us smarter. This is a totally new insight arising from the brain research surrounding emotional intelligence. When we move from the fear-based activity of critical analysis toward acknowledgment, appreciation and love, we actually use more of our brilliant minds. Do the people you love know how much you love them? Do you have an optimistic view of human life on planet earth? Do you have faith in the development of human consciousness? Do you have compassion for the lost, suffering and down-trodden souls around you? The closer you can move to answering yes to each of these questions, the more intelligent you will become, and the better off the world will be.

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Your Life Story
You are the main character in your own life story. You also play a leading role in the stories of many people whose lives you touch. Do the people close to you know your story? Have you taken the time to look for the value and beauty in your own life experience? You are sitting on a gold mine of brilliance and wisdom, which you can access through writing and telling the story of your life thus far. Carl Jung suggests that children live out the untold stories of their parents. Are you living out someone else’s story, or is someone living yours? Find the brilliant gold and healing in the storehouse of your memory, and become co-author of your story, from this point forward.

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The Best Health Care
Many of us, as modern consumers in the health care industry, have experienced the confusion and insecurity of facing physical ailments and not knowing what to do. For those interested in a broad-based holistic approach to health care, the myriad choices and possible treatment approaches can be daunting. To face this challenge successfully, learn to trust your inner physician, the brilliant body-mind complex that has been accumulating data on your functioning at a rate of a million bits of information per second since the moment you were born. Combine this with a strong faith in your friends, family, medical consultants and Creator, and you just may have the best possible health care team in the world.

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Your Unique Self
Every snowflake is completely unique. How much more amazing that there never has been and never will be another person exactly like you. Our greatest teachers throughout time have told us that there exists a divine purpose that each of us was designed to fulfill. This would mean that each one of us…that you…have a totally unique gift to offer the world. No one can give us what you can. You were born with a divine purpose on this planet at this time. You have a role to play that no other can fill. We need you. You are the only one who can offer that precious gift you were born to give. On behalf of joy and love everywhere, take the time and effort to explore the universe of your inner self.

EMOTIONAL BALANCE SHEET Designed by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D., Copyright 2005

A SELF-ASSESSMENT TOOL FOR EMOTIONAL WELLNESS

Instructions:
You can easily copy and print this Emotional Balance Sheet, and fill in each of the blanks to get your score.

1. Rate yourself on each item with a _____ beside it.
2. Use the respective 0-5 Assets Scale and Liabilities Scale to rate yourself.
3. Calculate the difference between your asset score and your liability score to estimate your current Emotional Energy Balance.

Assets Scale

0--Not at all 1--Very little 2-- Moderate 3-- Sufficient 4-- Very good 5-- Excellent

Energy Assets— established and lasting energy resources

Healthy mental processes:

1. Self-knowledge—how well you know your strengths and weaknesses _____
2. Spiritual and philosophical beliefs that bring comfort, peace and tranquility _____
3. Grounded optimism—a basically positive view of yourself and the world that is inclusive of “the big picture” _____
4. Self-enhancing beliefs—belief systems that give you energy, strengthen your faith and optimism, and get you through the difficult times _____

Healthy emotional patterns:

1. Self-empathy—the ability to see your deep emotions clearly, and to have compassion for yourself (without self pity) _____
2. Self-esteem—your reserve of good feelings about yourself in general _____
3. Resilience—the ability to bounce back from physical and emotional stress and difficulty _____
4. Stability—your level of consistency regarding your emotional response patterns, value systems and relationships _____

Healthy, established behavior patterns

1. Exercise/fitness program _____
2. Healthy diet _____
3. Contact with nature _____
4. Self-reflection, journaling _____
5. Meditation, prayer, spiritual practice _____

Meaningful work/professional life

1. Work satisfaction _____
2. Alignment between work and sense of purpose _____
3. Balance of work with home/family/social life _____

Fulfilling relationships

1. Good communication skills _____
2. Established community Family _____
3. Friends
   1. One or more very close friends _____
   2. A variety of casual friendships _____
   3. A number of friendly acquaintances _____
4. Larger community identity affiliations _____

Liabilities Scale

0--N/A 1--Very little 2--Moderate 3--Noticeable 4--Significant 5--Major Concern

Energy Liabilities -- Patterns and processes that drain your energy

Unhealthy mental processes

1. Low level of self-knowledge—little knowledge of your strengths and/or weaknesses _____
2. Insufficient or negative spiritual and philosophical belief systems _____
3. Pessimism, skepticism, cynicism re. self, others, life, the world _____
4. Self-limiting beliefs _____

Unhealthy emotional patterns

1. Negative self image _____
2. Depression, residual anger, chronic fear/anxiety _____
3. Emotional volatility _____

Unhealthy behavior patterns

1. Lack of self-discipline—impulsivity _____
2. Lack of self-motivation—poor initiative and follow-through _____
3. Lack of self-empathy—self-loathing, self-denigration _____
4. Compulsive-addictive behaviors (food, sex, tv, internet, work, alcohol, drugs) _____

Work/professional life

1. High work-related stress levels_____
2. Work does not match your values/vision _____
3. Do not like your work/profession ____

Relationships

1. Poor communication skills _____
2. Poor social skills _____
3. Social isolation _____
4. Dysfunctional relationships
   1. Codependency _____
   2. Dependency _____
   3. Victim-persecutor-rescuer triangles ____

Total Energy Assets Score: ________________
minus
Total Energy Liabilities Score: ______________
equals

Emotional Energy Balance:_________________

Assessing your Emotional Balance

The following are merely guidelines for self-assessment. If anything does not fit, disregard it. Use your own judgment and intuition to assess your assets and liabilities. Use this tool only to the extent that it is helpful to you.

Less than zero:

You are in an energy depletion condition. This may be an excellent time for preventive health care. You probably need to take immediate action to work toward better balance in your life. Read, research and/or seek professional help to accomplish your goals and overcome your difficulties.

0-15

You may be “running on fumes.” This is a survival mode, where you may feel you are just barely keeping your head above water. This can work for a lifetime, and may seem “normal,” but you can certainly improve on your condition by increasing your assets and reducing your liabilities.

16-33

You probably are not having a lot of fun. It may seem that you are just barely staying ahead of your problems, or maybe a little behind. You have some energy to work with, and it would be a good idea to build on your strengths and look to reducing the things in your life that drain you.

34-51

You have a lot going for you. Healthy beliefs and patterns are serving you well. You may be concerned about some energy drains that just won’t seem to go away. Consider the possibility that you can reach all of your dreams, by working diligently to grow your assets and reduce your liabilities.

52-69

You are close to “the top of your game.” You add energy to the lives of others, and your participation in any project is an asset to your associates. You will receive great benefit from helping others and sharing your knowledge and skills. Continue what you are doing, with a close eye on managing your assets and liabilities, and you are likely to prosper in many ways.

70-85

You are in a fortunate and blessed position in life. Your energy flows freely from within and all around you, and you have much to give to this world. There is great freedom and responsibility that goes with your level of health and emotional wealth. Your freedom is in how you choose to use your abundant energy, and your responsibility is to give back to this world that has blessed you. You will receive as you give. You are a plus to the world.